When it comes to dating, and relationships, we often proceed with caution, and we also proceed with an expectation of our partner. Some of which are unconscious. Others, we’re very aware of. Both can be very detrimental to the success of your relationship.
What Do You Mean, Fixing a Plate?
For those of us who aren’t privy to such tradition… in the African American community, fixing a man’s plate has become a part of the culture. It’s customary, and almost considered an expectation by many. Go to any barbecue on a warm summer afternoon, and you’ll see women serving men hamburgers, baked beans, and chips with their favorite drink.
Fixing his plate is when, a woman prepares her man’s (or significant other) plate, and brings said plate, to-him. Versus, him getting up to fix his own plate.
Some women might view this as being subservient, acquiescent, submissive, or a slave to patriarchal traditions. Other’s may view it as an act of service, or catering to his love language (I’ll get into that in a moment). First, check out the video below.
What Makes You Feel Loved? (30 sec) from Dr. Gary Chapman on Vimeo.
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