Side effects of a previous encounter should come with a disclaimer.
Proactive admittance of remnant—residuals, and a vestige of emotions, should be a prerequisite to dating and relationships. Don’t let the Harry Houdini illusions of happiness fool you. A vast amount of humans are walking around, suffering from Chantix-like side effects of a preceding affiliation.
Some people have had changes in behavior, hostility, agitation, depressed mood, suicidal thoughts or actions while using CHANTIX to help them quit smoking. Some people had these symptoms when they began taking CHANTIX, and others developed them after several weeks of treatment or after stopping CHANTIX. If you, your family, or caregiver notice agitation, hostility, depression, or changes in behavior, thinking, or mood that are not typical for you, or you develop suicidal thoughts or actions, anxiety, panic, aggression, anger, mania, abnormal sensations, hallucinations, paranoia, or confusion, stop taking CHANTIX and call your doctor right away. Also tell your doctor about any history of depression or other mental health problems before taking CHANTIX, as these symptoms may worsen while taking CHANTIX.
These symptoms sound more like someone bottled-up the formula to the side effects suffered during, and after a relationship.
Side Effects Disclaimer
The pharmaceutical companies got it right. Prior to presenting the side effects of their wonder-drug, they give you the beautiful Monet-like visual. Typically, it’s a man and a woman living their best life, sipping lemonade among a backdrop of butterflies and cherry blossoms.
While you’re distracted by the landscape, they Bill Cosby the side effects into your proverbial glass.
Comparatively, dating and relationships are very similar.
When you first encounter someone, you are presented with the representative visual. This may not necessarily mean they are an unsavory person with ulterior motive. It just means they haven’t given their disclaimer of side effects yet. They shroud you with a representation of their best self. That being said, we all do this consciously, and unconsciously. Some may be able to sustain the presentation for a longer period of time. However, after you’ve been with them, or when you break up, those side effects will (and do) kick in.
It would be nice to know what those side effects are before we get involved.
Love is the Ultimate Wonder Drug
Dating & Relationship Side Effects Burn
Some people have had changes in behavior, hostility, agitation, depressed mood, suicidal thoughts or actions while dating, in a relationship, or during a breakup. Some people had these symptoms while dating, during the relationship, or when they were with the wrong person. If you, your family, or friends notice agitation, hostility, depression, or changes in behavior, thinking, or mood that are not typical for you, or you develop suicidal thoughts or actions, anxiety, panic, aggression, anger, mania, abnormal sensations, hallucinations, paranoia, or confusion, you need to take a damn break and call your therapist right away. Also tell your therapist about any history of depression or other mental health problems before getting involved with the opposite sex, as these symptoms may worsen while involved with the opposite sex.
Someone needs to do a commercial just like this—but for the wonder drug called… Love
It Doesn’t Matter
Consequently, even after reading all the symptoms, a large sum of us will still take the dive with little to no experience swimming. We will still embark on the mission-of-love, regardless of the outcome. We know the side effects are coming. No matter how good our relationship is, we will encounter obstacles. If it doesn’t work out, there’s always the emotional let-down that’s inevitable.
That being said, it would help if there was a disclaimer that gave us the side effects up front. At last we could be better prepared.
While dealing with (insert name) some people have had:
- Destabilization of emotions
- Unusual eating habits and sudden weight gain
- Loss of income
- Loss of friendships
- Rapid palpitations of the heart
- Sudden, yet uncontrollable mood swings
- Sudden hot flashes and anxiety
- Feelings of anger, frustration, or depression
- Self-doubt, and low self esteem
- Insomnia and various other sleep disorders
- Feelings of resentment, anger, and hate
Would You Still Risk It?
Under those circumstances, if you were given a disclaimer, would you still risk it? Or, would you weigh the risk versus the reward? My belief is that most of us would still risk it. Given these points, and knowing the side effects of falling in love… we’d still jump out of a perfectly good (and safe) airplane and skydive into love.
Love is the Ultimate Wonder Drug
As shown above, the majority of us are risk takers. Love is a gamble. It is the ultimate crap-shoot. In most cases, we come up snake-eyes. Regardless of that fact, we still pursue that feeling—that oneness with another person. Why? In short, because we care less about the side effects and more about the potential, than we do anything else.
All things considered, take the love drug with discretion and, give your heart willingly, not recklessly.