Blogger Jay Colby states, "according to research studies... only about 25% of men and 14% of women cheat in a lifetime. Also, "that roughly 30% to 60% of all married individuals (in the United States) will engage in infidelity at some point during their marriage. However, the number one cause of divorce in the U.S is basic incompatibility." He also states that, "in the past, the contention was that men were more likely to cheat than women. However, in the past twenty years’, women have become more independent. Which has led to more woman who are willing to step out of their relationship."
But the part that vexed me most is, About 60% of people said no you cannot cheat on someone if you truly love them. 25% said you could cheat on someone and truly love them and 15% said you can truly love someone and cheat on them if they cheated first.
Cheating and infidelity usually are the downfall of a healthy monogamous relationship, but does cheating end a relationship? The age-old question can you truly love someone if you cheat on them? There are so may viewpoints towards this question. Therefore, I did some research and found out a few of interesting facts. According to research […]
via Can You Truly Love Someone & Cheat on Them? — Jay Colby
Cheat On A Loved One?
Without question it can happen. The emotional response would be, No. No way could you cheat on your wife, boyfriend, girlfriend or otherwise. But if you take a step back, if you’ve cheated or know someone who did, oftentimes, they loved the person they cheated on.
Love is Imperfect and So Are Humans
Humans are flawed but, beautiful creatures. We make mistakes. How many times have you known the outcome and you still went through with the action? We know what will happen if we cheat and yet we still do it. But why? Because, we are human. By human, [as I stated in a earlier post about dating] I mean, we are borderline insane. We will put our hands over the flame even though we know it’s hot. We will cheat on someone, even though we love them. Even though we know we will hurt them when we get caught. Even worse, we are willing to carry the weight of cheating around with us like a 50 pound scarlet letter.
Why Do We Cheat?
Dr. Susan Krauss Whitbourne of Psychology today stated, there are various reasons:
1. Lack of sexual satisfaction in your primary relationship.
2. Desire for more sexual encounters.
3. Lack of emotional satisfaction in your primary relationship.
4. Wanting emotional validation from someone else.
5. Falling out of love with your partner.
6. Falling in love with someone new.
7. Your wanting to seek revenge.
8. You’re curious and want new experiences.
Do any of the above reasons mean that you no longer love the person? Perhaps number 5 and 6. However, “falling out of love,” doesn’t mean you no longer love the person you are with. It simply means, you no longer carry the same level, or type of love you had for them before. Basically, that means, you [can] love them, but not be, “in-love,” with them.
Emotional, Not Logical
We need to consider the fact that relationships are not based on logic. They are influenced by our emotions. Emotions are not rational at all. Logically, one could say…you would never cheat on someone you love. From an emotional standpoint, and based on the above reasoning, you can cheat on someone you love.
Relationships are not based on logic. They are influenced by our emotions.
Since relationships are emotional not logically based, you can love someone and [feel] as though you need temporary satisfaction outside your relationship because of something lacking at home. It doesn’t make sense at all, does it? Well, people choose their partners based on incompatibility in a lot of relationships. As a result, raising the possibility of cheating. This occurs often. Which is why the rate of divorce is up, as well as, the amount of single people walking around today.
We choose badly. We choose based on emotion, not logic. As a result, cheating on a loved-one has happened, and will continue to happen. No matter what, cheating is wrong. Always has been, always will be. However, just because someone cheats, it doesn’t mean they don’t love you. It just means, you have some new decisions to make.